There’s no such thing as a perfect person or a perfect relationship. We all make mistakes; what matters is how we own up to them and prevent them from happening again in the future.
You often hear about how men cheat or keep big secrets from their partners. But women aren’t perfect either – we make our fair share of mistakes too. And when we do mess up, it’s often more challenging for us to move past it because we can’t let go of the wrong doings we committed.
To help recover from an indiscretion and keep the relationship moving forward, you should recognise your mistake and be completely honest with your man about what happened. Afterwards, there are three crucial steps you should take to help salvage the relationship:
1. Give Him Space
Though it might seem counter-intuitive, giving him a little room to breathe will do wonders for your relationship. It will give him some time to cool off and think about the situation rationally. After a fight, men need more time than women to process their emotions and wind down from the adrenaline rush. Trying to have a conversation before he’s ready will only push him further away.
2. Talk facts
After you’ve given him some time to cool off, sit down and have a calm discussion about what happened. You should be armed with as many facts as possible to describe the who, what, where when and why. Though emotions will undoubtedly affect your discussion, you should do your best to stay focused on the situation at hand and try to resolve the matter without causing any more friction.
3. Walk the talk
During your conversation, you’ll probably make a few promises about how you’ll correct your behaviour in the future and not let the same mistake happen again. Now it’s time to prove it. Actions speak louder than words, especially when you’re trying to prove something to a man. Take some time and make the initiative to go the extra mile, whether that entails checking in more frequently or spending less time in the office.
If your man decides to forgive you, it’s up to you to hold up your end of the bargain and keep your relationship on the right track. Communication is key and will help you prevent future issues from arising.
If your man chooses not to forgive you, learn from your mistakes and move on. What’s meant to be shall be, and if he doesn’t think your relationship is worth salvaging, he’s clearly not the one for you.
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