Romantic relationships should be full of love, lust and life, but after a while they can become dull and routine. It happens slowly and usually at no fault of either partner, but it does happen.
If you feel like your relationship is stuck in a rut, the first thing you should do is talk to your partner. Ask them how they feel about your relationship. Are they truly happy or simply content? Are you meeting all of their emotional and physical needs? Give your partner a chance to ask you the same questions, and be completely honest with your answers.
If you and your partner aren’t on the same page, you need to figure out why. Have your needs or priorities changed? Figure out where the gaps are so you can work on getting on the same page.
If you both agree that your chemistry has fizzled out, there are a few things you can try to spice things up:
Take a trip to an exotic destination.
Make a list of all the places each of you would like to travel. Narrow it down to the locations that appear on both your lists and figure out which destination offers the most adventure and excitement. Then start planning! Even if you need a year or two to save for your vacation, the anticipation is something you and your partner can relish together.
Establish a weekly date night.
Designate one night a week that will always serve as date night. Do something different each week – try dancing lessons, an art class or even skydiving! There’s no limit to what you and your partner can do together, so get creative when planning your date nights.
Start a project you can do together.
Explore the things you’re both passionate about and find a project you can work on together. Maybe it’s working for a charity that represents a cause meaningful to your lives or writing a collection of short stories. Whatever you and your partner like to do, find a way to combine your interests that you put a lot of time and energy into.
Evaluate other aspects of your life.
It’s quite possible that the dullness you’re feeling in your relationship is actually bleeding over from another part of your life. Are you being challenged in your job? Do you feel like your days are all the same? Though it may seem scary, you may need to make bigger changes in your life, like getting a new job or moving to a new city, to fulfill your restlessness.
If your relationship is starting to feel more mundane than magical, don’t panic. It’s a completely normal phase that most couples go through at one point or another. What matters most is that you and your partner are open about your feelings and work together to bring your relationship back to the honeymoon phase.
Don’t hesitate to reach out to your close friends and family – chances are, they’ve been through something similar and have a lot of good advice to offer.
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