Making a Long-Distance Relationship Work: Long Distance Tips
“Long Distance Relationships are hard, but they’re also incredible. If you can love, trust, respect and support each other from a distance, then you’ll be unstoppable once you’re physically together.” - Anonymous.
Long-distance relationships (LDRs) aren’t for the faint of heart, but they can be incredibly rewarding. While living far away from the person you love is challenging, many long-distance relationships work beautifully when both partners are willing to put in the effort. No matter whether you are hours away or even living in different countries, this guide offers practical long-distance tips to help your relationship not just survive but thrive. This is all about how to make it work!
Let's Talk About Long Distance Relationships
The number of long-distance relationships has gradually risen and will continue to do so. Partly due to the need for many people whose work involves travel to and from the workplace, or at times relocate to minimise travel expenses to and from your workplace. Greater access and exposure to the internet and social media sites, chat rooms and dating sites have also played a part in the increase of the number of these relationships.
Studies also show that there is nothing to prove that this kind of relationship has a higher rate of breakups, infidelity or relationship problems than your ‘regular’ relationship (geographically close relationship). As the quote above says, if you can love, trust, respect and support each other from a distance, then you’ll be unstoppable once you’re physically together!
This relationship isn't for everyone. Obviously, we are all different and have varied expectations as to what is workable in each individual relationship. If you are wanting a relationship with someone to come home to on a consistent basis, or if you don’t feel quite settled when away from your partner, then LDRs may likely not work for you.
Understanding the Challenges of a Long-Distance Relationship
Romantic relationships come with their own set of hurdles but being apart from one another adds a unique layer of complexity. Long-distance couples often grapple with time zone differences, conflicting schedules and the emotional toll of not being able to see their partner whenever they want. Despite these obstacles, the good news is that many long-distance relationships work with the right mindset and commitment.
With an understanding of the challenges that come with long-distance relationships, it's important to ask ourselves: Can these relationships truly work, despite the obstacles they face?
Do You Think Long Distance Relationships Work?
Some independent people, who enjoy their own company and are focused forward, may find that this type of relationship is just what will work for them. When you both have your own direction with work, family commitments etc, this kind of relationship can be something that works well for you both. This type of relationship can be seen as a compatible connection where you are both happy to be focused on your own direction and commitments while apart. Then you can enjoy building a strong foundation and memories when you do get to have quality time together.
If you are a lover of your own space and company, having someone come and merge with your existence for a weekend, week, or overnight - may initially feel as though your space is being invaded or at least your style a little cramped. Even though you can both be longing to see each other, you still have to allow each other's personal space and be respectful of those adjustments taking place.
How does it Happen?
A successful and happy long distance relationship doesn’t just magically happen. It is a result of both parties wanting to make an effort to maintain the relationship together. Do make the effort to physically spend time with your partner when time permits of course. Do communicate with ease and consistency, with a natural flow and balance when it comes to who initiates communication or contact, etc.
Make an effort in getting to know your partner. This sounds kind of obvious but when you don't live in the same place, the small details of life may still remain unknown. When you both make an effort to feel an important part of each other’s lives, that is when you will see the relationship flourishing and growing naturally.
Tips to Make a LDR Work Despite the Distance
1. Talk or Video Call Every Day but Don’t Overdo It
Communication is the backbone of any healthy relationship, and it’s even more crucial in an LDR. Make time to talk every day, whether through a quick phone or video call, Facetime, or even just a flirty text message. That said, don’t be afraid to take space. Quality over quantity goes a long way in maintaining a strong relationship. If you are in a long-distance relationship or you and your partner are considering one, please remember to consider the following - keep the lines of communication open. Schedule a time that is suitable for both of you to have quality conversations, where you and your partner have the time to listen to each other and share your hopes and dreams.
LDRS Need You to Take the Time
Take the time to respond and acknowledge a message, missed call, or email from your partner where possible. This will stop anxious thinking and concerns your partner may have if you have been out of touch for longer than normal or haven't made contact as scheduled. Stay involved with what is going on in your partner's life.
Keep your partner up to date with your lifestyle. Sharing what is important to each other helps keep the connection in your relationship fresh. Feeling you are an important part of each other's distant lives, having input at times, and being able to support your partner with their dreams or difficulties they may be experiencing, are all important ways to strengthen the foundation of your relationship.
Simple things can mean so much, whether it is a handwritten letter, a card, a surprise visit or anything in between can make all the difference to your partner. Most importantly of all, enjoy your time together or when living apart. Make the most of what you DO have. Enjoy the time you get to spend together. Try not to spend all of your time together talking about the relationship and the relationship only, find a comfortable balance when it comes to your quality time and how you spend it.
2. Make Plans (Big and Small)
You’ll want to make plans to spend some time together in person. Knowing that you have a trip or future visit lined up gives both of you something to look forward to. Even small plans like watching a TV show together or taking turns reading the same book can be bonding experiences. These shared moments help bridge the gap of living far away. They remind you that you're still building a life together, even from different places. And having consistent plans reinforces your commitment and keeps the relationship moving forward.
3. Stay Connected in Creative Ways - Watch a Movie!
To make a long-distance relationship work, think beyond daily calls. Try long-distance date ideas like:
- Virtual dates using video call apps
- Reading the same book and discussing it weekly
- Playing online games together
- Watching a movie simultaneously and texting or calling during it
- Sending surprise care packages
These are excellent ways to share experiences, create intimacy, and keep the spark alive. They help you stay emotionally connected despite being miles apart. The effort you put into creating these moments shows your long-distance partner that your bond truly matters.
4. Understand That Relationship Maintenance Is Ongoing
Just because you're not geographically close doesn't mean the relationship doesn’t need care. Relationship maintenance includes checking in emotionally, sharing your day and showing up even when it’s inconvenient. If your partner lives far away, it’s important to remind them that they’re still a priority in your life. Little gestures like a thoughtful message, a surprise letter or simply remembering important dates go a long way. Consistent effort - no matter how small - reinforces your commitment and helps your partner feel loved and valued, even from afar.
5. Be Honest About Your Needs
It’s normal to need reassurance, and intimacy or to feel a bit insecure sometimes. Talk to your partner openly about what you need. Tell your partner how you feel whether it’s about missing them or needing more communication. A strong relationship grows through honesty and vulnerability. When you create space for these conversations, you're building emotional safety and trust. Don’t be afraid to express your needs - long-distance relationships thrive when both people feel seen, heard and supported.
6. Keep It Fun and Flirty
Long-distance doesn’t mean boring. Flirt through text, send cute photos, or schedule a fun virtual date night. Keeping things light-hearted and romantic goes a long way in maintaining emotional connection. Watch a movie together online or cook the same meal on video call. It’s the next best thing to be together in person. These playful moments help you stay connected and excited about each other, even when you’re miles apart. Don’t underestimate the power of shared laughter, inside jokes, and spontaneous fun - these little moments strengthen your bond and keep the romance alive.
7. Treat your Long Distance Relationship Like Any Other Relationship
Sometimes we can disrupt the natural ebb and flow of our lives by trying too hard to make something work. Relax and see how things turn out. You can always reassess certain areas of the relationship if required but don’t jump the gun by trying to have a million rules and regulations. Do be sure to openly discuss and listen to any areas of concern that you or your partner may have and allow yourselves to decide what works best for you as a couple.
I am not a great believer in needing to place rules in relationships, I feel if you need to change someone through rules in your relationship, then you are with the wrong person. The way the two of you interact and respond to each other will give you a good idea of how compatible you are together.
As mentioned these are not rules as such, just areas that you have both raised and discussed and agreed upon for peace of mind for both of you when apart from each other. This is about what works for you and your partner. It is not about what your friends think your partner should be doing. You should not base your choices on your family's decisions, your workmates or anyone else for that matter. Everyone will want to give their advice whether or not you want it, however, it is important to continue moving in the direction that feels right for you and your partner.
8. Address the Elephant in the Room. Is This Going Somewhere?
No matter how far apart you are, a long-distance relationship needs direction. Are you working toward living in the same city? Do you plan to move in together? Without a shared vision, even the strongest emotional connection can fizzle out. Talk about where your relationship is heading and make sure you're aligned.
9. Make Time for Your Own Life
Spending time with friends and family, pursuing hobbies, and growing as an individual are all essential - even more so in LDRs. A healthy relationship involves two whole people choosing to be together, not two half-lives on hold. While you’re waiting to see your partner, don’t forget to live your life fully. Being in an LDR doesn’t mean you haven’t kept in touch - it means you’re staying connected while also moving forward, both together and as individuals.
Great communication does not come with a license to bombard your partner with insecure and fretful type messages. Nor multiple missed calls, one after another, because you can’t get through your day without checking on what your partner is or isn’t doing. If you are the type of person who hits the panic button straight away or immediately starts thinking of all the worst-case scenarios if you are unable to contact your partner for a time, then I would not recommend LDRs. You will probably need to do some work on self-love, self-esteem and self-confidence if you want to be together in the future. Once these areas are balanced and no longer blocked with old emotional beliefs, then you will be free to enjoy all types of relationships.
10. Handle Jealousy and Temptation Proactively
Dating and relationships often come with a side of insecurity, but being miles apart can magnify it. Talk openly about boundaries, what fidelity looks like for you both and any concerns about dating other people. Trust is the foundation of every long-distance one and it needs to be nurtured.
LDRs need clear communication around these topics to prevent misunderstandings and build a sense of security. Remember that trust isn’t just about fidelity - it’s about showing up emotionally and being there for each other, even from afar. Consistently affirming each other's commitment and intentions strengthens your connection and helps to keep any doubts at bay.
11. Celebrate Milestones - Even From Afar
Just because you’re not together doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate anniversaries, birthdays or even small wins. Plan a trip or throw a virtual celebration. Small gestures can feel even more meaningful when you’re geographically separated.
12. Know that Not Every Relationship Will Work Out - and that’s Okay
Sometimes, despite amazing work and effort, a relationship seems that it just won’t work. Maybe you’re not aligned on future plans, or you find that the emotional labor of being apart outweighs the joy. That doesn’t mean you failed. It means you were willing to try, and that’s something so special in itself.
Are You a Frequent Long-Distance Partner?
If you keep finding yourself in distant relationships where you're always making plans to meet but never quite manage to, it might be worth asking: is something holding you back from connecting with someone closer to home? Fear or emotional blocks could be at play. You may lack trust in yourself when it comes to closely connected, physical relationships.
This can be caused by many things, most commonly old fears and hurts from previous relationships or outdated beliefs that no longer apply to your new relationship opportunities. If you feel this relates to you, or someone you know, you may like to book a psychic phone reading with one of the gifted psychics at Absolute Soul Secrets. This will be an easy way to identify and release any blockages that may be unconsciously causing you to self-sabotage yourself. Perhaps attempts or opportunities at a more local type of relationship may fail for some reason which you can't pinpoint. If you call, you'll receive support and direction during your reading to create positive changes.
Final Thoughts: How to Make a Long-Distance Relationship Work
Making a long-distance relationship work requires communication, effort, creativity, and most of all - commitment. No matter how far apart you live, if you're both willing to prioritize each other, set goals, and enjoy the journey, your love can absolutely flourish.
Whether you’re just starting or have been together for months or years, remember that every LDR is unique. With a little imagination and a lot of heart, you can create a strong, healthy relationship - even from afar.
So go ahead. Pick a time for that Facetime. Watch a movie tonight. Plan that visit. Keep loving, keep growing, and above all, keep believing in your bond - no matter how many miles apart you may be.
If you want peace of mind in your relationship or any other areas of your life, contact the gifted psychics at Absolute Soul Secrets for an informative and inspiring psychic reading today. You won’t be disappointed.
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Author: Rose Smith
