Navigating the Landscape of a Blended Family


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Thirty years ago, the traditional family structure included two parents, a man and a woman, and a handful of children. Over the years, the definition of a “normal” family has changed so dramatically that it doesn’t even exist anymore.

As the divorce rate began to increase, so did the number of single parents raising children. Many single parents started to remarry, thus birthing a new family structure: the blended family. Comprised of two parents and their children from previous marriages, blended families have become extremely commonplace.

Despite their prevalence, blended families are still a difficult concept for both children and parents. Kids, especially those younger than age 12, often have a hard time comprehending changing family dynamics. Additionally, parents whose ex spouses remarry often struggle with the thought of their children being co-parented by someone new.

No matter what happens to divorce rates in the coming years, the blended family structure is here to stay. Therefore, both parents and children involved in a blended family need to come to terms with their situation and learn how to make the most of it.


After a divorce, it’s entirely common for at least one spouse to remarry a new partner who has a family of his or her own. However, many people in this situation find that their ex partners are not as accepting as they would hope. Their exes do not like the fact that a new person will help raise and discipline their children and don’t like that your attention will be shared with new children.

In this situation, transparency is key. You should have an open, honest discussion with your ex spouse and let him or her know that your first priority will always be your children. It may help if your ex meets your new spouse and their children. Many families become close and are able to live harmoniously as their lives continue to intertwine.

Not everyone will be able to accomplish this goal, but things will be much better if everyone can at least stand to be in the same room together. At the end of the day, friendship isn’t necessary, but mutual respect is.


Children of blended families perhaps face the most difficulties. A new parent, who often brings their own children into the mix, is introduced to their life without any input on their part. Their household can double in size, and they’re forced to cohabit with people who were strangers just a few years ago. This can be a very confusing time, and it’s usually not an easy adjustment.

The best thing parents of blended families can do for their children is to show more care and affection than ever before. If your child is having trouble coping with new siblings, try to get him or her to see the benefits of their new situation. They have more siblings to play with and built in friends to hang out with whenever they get bored. Plus, they have another parent to show them love and affection. No matter what, ensure that your child doesn’t feel left out.

Blended families can be wonderful, but they certainly present a unique set of challenges for everyone involved. If you remain focused on the end goal, keeping everyone healthy and happy in their current situation, you and your new family will do just fine.

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Author: Rose Smith