Men Are Not Really Afraid of Relationships

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Most women can probably remember a time when they were seeing a guy who ended things because he was “afraid of commitment” or wasn’t “ready for a relationship.” But a few weeks after cutting things off, that man was in a relationship with another woman.

What gives? Did he lie to avoid an awkward conversation or did he change his mind about relationships? Was the new woman simply a better catch and therefore more qualified to be in a relationship with?

The truth is that it’s probably a combination of all of the above. Some men may use a fear of commitment as an excuse to leave a partner they’re not truly interested in, while others simply mask their lack of interest as an aversion to relationships.

Men aren’t born with a special gene that makes them immune to the desire for security and companionship; we know this because men enter into relationships and get married every day of every year. So men are not really afraid of relationships. But if a man tells you he isn’t ready for a relationship, here’s what he might really mean:

“I’m not interested in you”

One of the most common reasons that a man will tell you he’s not ready for a relationship is that he doesn’t have romantic feelings for you. Maybe he had a crush that fizzled out or he only had physical feelings for you. Whatever the case, he has no problem with being in a relationship; he just doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

“There’s someone else”

If a man tells you he’s afraid to commit and then jumps into a relationship a few days or weeks later, he simply decided that he liked the other woman better. Chances are, he was dating the two of you simultaneously to see whom he felt more compatible with. Unfortunately, you came out short in this competition. But you shouldn’t spend too much time fretting over his decision – clearly that relationship wasn’t meant to be.

“You aren’t relationship material”

It’s rare, but occasionally a man will casually date a woman with the intention of entering into a more serious relationship down the road, but realises she isn’t relationship material before that happens. He might feel as if you aren’t serious about your relationship or that you wouldn’t be loyal as a partner. If you don’t get along with his friends and family or you don’t share many of the same hobbies, this could be the reason he decides to walk away. If you feel like this is the case, you should have an open discussion about his feelings. It could be a good learning experience for the both of you.

If a man wants to be with you, he will do anything he can to make it happen. So if a guy tells you he isn’t ready for a relationship or is afraid of commitment, it’s simply a blanket excuse so that he doesn’t have to tell you the truth.

Whatever the reason, you should know that you can do better. There’s plenty of fish in the sea, so start looking! Or better still, call one of our gifted psychics at They can tune in to relationship opportunities coming your way and explain the meaning behind your past relationships. Our psychics are available 24/7.

Author: Rose Smith