“How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.” – Paul Coelho.
It’s not about you. It’s not about me, either.
Depression is a strange wasteland, filled with unpredictability and self-flagellation, where everything that was once beautiful, bright, and full of possibility is now stretched before us in an ever expanding barren landscape of hopelessness. Alone and miserable, those who suffer from this disease have side effects just like any other sickness. Sometimes this side effect may present itself as unkindness.
This is something that many people struggle with while in the grips of depression, going from feelings of optimism, compassion and kindness to having little patience, living in a constant state of anxiety about social interactions, and this strange conviction that those around them will find them boring, annoying, or self-obsessed, sending them even further into the cycle of sadness.
Think about this for a moment, if you believed no one really wanted you around, wouldn’t you feel irritable and short-tempered? Now, for a moment, think about the last person who was rude to you, said something unkind or thoughtless.
How does that person feel about him or herself?
Therapists agree that people who suffer from depression often begin as sensitives – those who feel too much, are afraid to bring up issues that might offend those around them or could damage a relationship. They internalise many of these feelings, beginning to wonder what is wrong with them, not with the relationship or the situation. Furthermore, they tend to assume that when others are mean, rude, or offensive towards them it was something that they did.
However, as the depression worsens, that person becomes more irritable and their temper shortens. Bam! Now, they are becoming rude and unkind to those around them.
It is rarely a conscious decision to be mean. One doesn’t wake up in the morning thinking, “Today, I am going to hurt someone’s feelings.” But when someone feels down about themselves, then those feelings spill over onto everyone around them.
A psychic reading may help you determine if you are doing this in your own life. If you are lashing out or someone is lashing out at you, there is a good chance the root is depression and this is a way to insulate tender feelings. Often those who are depressed are cruel to those who are closest to them.
Those who are depressed have convinced themselves they are unworthy of love. You don’t have to tolerate it or internalise it as your fault. If you are the one feeling depressed, listen closely to your destructive, self-critical thoughts. Are they based on reality, or are you fabricating them?
Having someone you trust to talk to can help. Consult with one of our Australian Clairvoyants and Psychics to gain clarity of mind with an email reading or phone psychic reading at www.absolutesoulsecrets.com. Absolute Soul Secrets offers free information on their website too such as free horoscopes, tarot card predictions, astrology, which you may find helpful to your situation.