Trying to Change Him

woman trying to change the dressing style of her guy

He’s great, but…

Ladies – how familiar does the following scenario sound?

You’ve recently met a man and are getting along pretty well. He’s nice, and you guys have fun together, but there’s a list of things you wish you could change about him. Maybe he’s a night owl and you’re an early bird, or maybe he prefers the city but you’re a tried-and-true country girl.

No matter what the issue is, you keep thinking that this man would be a great fit if it wasn’t for this thing or this other thing. So what’s a girl to do? Answer these questions to figure out your best move:

Is it a temporary situation?

Let’s say you live in in one part of the country, but your crush lives on the other side of the world and you can’t stomach the idea of a long distance relationship. Is there potential for one of you to move to the other, or are both of you tied down to your roots? If this issue is something that’s temporary and likely won’t be a problem in six months or a year, you may want to hold out for a little longer before calling it quits. But if the problem isn’t likely to change in the future, that’s something you need to consider.

Does this impact your future in a major way?

Maybe you want kids but he doesn’t. A difference of opinions here is going to change your future completely, as it will dictate what your family looks like. If what you’d like to change is going to have a lot of influence on your future, it may be time for you to walk away. If not, you may still have a chance at a successful relationship.

Does he want to change?

If your man has a gambling addiction and wants to recover, that’s a totally different situation from an alcoholic who won’t even admit they have a problem. If there’s something you want to change about him that he also wants to change, you’re much more likely to see eye to eye and have a fighting chance to help him change.

Can you meet somewhere in the middle?

He likes to go out five nights a week while you’d prefer to stay home and curl up with a book or watch a movie. In a situation like this, you and your man should find the middle ground. Maybe he only goes out three nights a week – you tag along for two and let him have one night a week with the boys. If the compromise is suitable for both of you, your relationship should do just fine. But if one of you isn’t willing to make a change, you’ll have a difficult time meshing your lifestyles together in a cohesive way.

It’s dangerous to enter into a relationship with someone whom you’re already looking to change. If you really love someone, you should accept them for who they are and embrace their unique personality traits. If it’s a minor thing you’d like to change, the above questions should help you decide whether or not you can make it work. If it’s a major change, you might be better off finding someone who doesn’t seem like a fixer upper.

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Author: Rose Smith