How to Separate Work from your Love Life

image of man engrossed in his computer ignoring his lover

Have you ever had a bad day at work and found yourself taking it out on your significant other? Maybe an important meeting with a new client didn’t go as planned or you lost a big account. Whatever it was that caused you stress, you carried it home with you and were unnecessarily rude to your partner.

If it happens once or twice, it’s nothing to be concerned about. But it can become an incredibly bad habit, and it will wreak havoc on your love life. You’re most likely aware that taking your work problems home will cause unnecessary stress in your relationship, but do you know how to stop?

If you feel like you’re frequently taking out work stress on your partner, here are the three things you need to do to try and separate work from your love life:

  1. Be open about the issues that are negatively impacting your mood. Explain to your partner that you’re going through a rough period at work and are aware that it’s affecting your mood. Moving forward, give them a heads up if you’ve had a particularly bad day so they can be prepared to handle some extra snippiness. Simultaneously, let them know what you’re doing to try to maintain a pleasant disposition outside the office. As long as you keep the lines of communication open, your significant other should understand.
  2. Establish an agreement with your significant other about when you talk about work. Set up a rule that dictates when, and how long, you talk about work at home. Maybe it’s never, maybe it’s for just five minutes after you walk in the door. Whatever it is, make sure it’s an arrangement that both you and your partner are comfortable with and stick to it. This will help you set boundaries and keep you from spending too much time mulling over your work problems.
  3. Leave your work-related troubles at the office. You have from 9 – 5 (or whatever your working hours are) to focus on business goals and challenges. You’ll do yourself, and your love life, a disservice if you spend any more time than that worrying about that big presentation or internal review. This often means refraining from checking emails or answering phone calls after hours. If your job permits that, do it! You and your partner will notice a very positive difference.

Separating your love life from your work life isn’t easy. It’s easy to let the stresses of work life overflow into your personal time. It’s a common problem that many couples face, but just because it’s common doesn’t mean it’s harmless.

Do what you can while you’re at work – give 110 percent to overcome any obstacles that come in your way. But realise that you are one person with two hands and a set amount of hours each week. Work isn’t nearly as important as your love life, and if you let the latter fall to the wayside, you’ll have much bigger problems than an angry email from your boss.

How do you separate your love life from your work life? If you need answers on how to do this, give one of our gifted psychics at Absolute Soul Secrets a call. They can provide you tools such as meditation, insight or a tarot card reading to show you how you can break the habit of not being able to switch off from work when you are with your partner and family.

Author: Rose Smith