Unfortunately, arguments are a regular part of life. They happen between friends, co-workers, lovers and family. Sometimes they’re over a major transgression, like a cheating spouse or a backstabbing friend, while other times they stem from something silly, like being late to dinner with your parents. Regardless of nature or severity, arguments happen, and it’s imperative that you learn how to get over them.
Though every argument is different, there are several general steps you can take that help you come to terms with what happened and move on:
Identify the cause of the argument.
Before you can start talking about an argument, you have to figure out what actually caused the fight. Sometimes, two people start arguing over one issue and then other issues morph their fight into a totally different conversation. Take some time to reflect on the root cause of the argument, and then make a list of all the other factors that came into play.
Consider the role you played.
Arguments don’t happen between one person – it takes two people to fight. It might be tough to come to terms with, but you played some type of role in causing the argument. Whether it was your mistake that started the fight or you didn’t handle someone else’s mistake well, be honest about how you fueled the fire. If you aren’t sure, ask whomever it is you’re fighting with for their opinion.
Talk it out.
This step is usually the most challenging. Yes, it can be difficult to talk through an argument about an uncomfortable subject, and there are probably still negative emotions between the two of you, but it’s important for you and the other party to talk about what happened so you can start to move on. Be open, be honest and be kind – there is no need for harsh language or insulting comments.
Moving forward from an argument doesn’t mean that the other person was right or that you forgot about the disagreement you had. It simply means that you value the relationship more than whatever disagreement caused the fight. Forgive, but don’t forget – use what you learned from the argument to improve the relationship in the future.
Prevent future arguments.
The most important part of moving on is applying what you learned from the argument in the future. Whether you have to adjust the way you have conversations with a certain person or avoid a topic altogether, knowing how to side step future arguments will pay off.
In reality, there isn’t a resolution to every argument. There are definitely some fights that can’t be reversed, the kind that end friendships and even romantic relationships. But disagreements of this severity are rare and typically stem from a collection of issues.
For most arguments, follow the steps above to work it out and move on. Life is too short to hold petty grudges against the people you care for most, and overcoming arguments will help you feel more at peace with your own life, too.
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