Dating someone with depression isn’t easy, but that shouldn’t deter you from being with someone you love. If you have feelings for a person who is depressed, there are four things you should remember:
They did not choose to be depressed.
Depression is a medical disease. It is not the same as “being in a bad mood” or “being down in the dumps.” Just as no one chooses to get cancer or break their leg, no one chooses to be depressed
Many people who do not suffer from depression assume that a depressed person can “snap out of it” and simply overcome the disease. Unfortunately, this is not true, and it’s essential that you remember that if you are dating someone with depression.
It’s not your fault.
If your lover is depressed, it’s easy to assume that you’re part of the problem. Nine times out of 10, this is not the case. Unless you’re causing your partner severe physical or emotional pain, their depression has nothing to do with you. Taking on that guilt will only make matters worse, and it will be harder for your partner to openly express their thoughts and feelings. If you can’t shake the feeling that you’re contributing to your partner’s depression, head to a relationship counsellor or a general psychiatrist to explore your suspicion with a trained professional.
They need your help.
Depression is a medical condition, but that doesn’t mean that your partner doesn’t need your help. Even if you have no medical background, you can support your partner and be there for them during difficult times. Some days they’ll need a shoulder to cry on and someone to listen to their problems. Other days they’ll want a distraction from the pain they’re feeling and will need a fun night on the town. Pay special attention to your partner’s moods and make sure you’re ready to cater to their needs, no matter what those needs are.
They might push you away.
Even if you’re a perfect partner and you do everything you can to support your partner, it’s likely that they’ll try to push you away at one point or another. A person suffering from depression experiences a range of emotions, and it can be difficult for them to devote the necessary amount of time and emotion to a romantic relationship. Be sensitive to your partner’s needs, but let them know that you’re here for the long haul, and you’re not afraid of their depression. This will not only show your loyalty, but it will mean the world to your partner.
If your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is suffering from depression, please make sure that they seek the help they need. It might take some convincing, but your partner needs to get the medical attention required to help treat and manage depression.
Pay special attention to your own thoughts and feelings, too. Though depression isn’t contagious like the common cold, it is possible for someone else’s feelings to dramatically affect your own.
If you are dealing with someone with depression, and would like some strategies on how to cope, call one of our Australian Psychics online at Absolute Soul Secrets. They can help shed light on your situation and help you deal through your difficult time.