There are many reasons a man would date a woman he’s not really interested in. Maybe he’s lonely, or just wants sex. Maybe he’s trying to get back at a former lover by flaunting a new beau. However, one of the more common reasons men date women they don’t really love is because they’re in it for the money.
The term gold digger is often used to describe a younger woman dating an older man for his money, but the idea behind it is not exclusive to young women and old men. Men who have fallen on hard financial times often turn to a successful woman for financial support.
In these situations, the woman usually doesn’t realise the man is dating her for her money. If you think you might be in this situation, or you’re worried about a friend, here are five signs you should be on the lookout for:
He asks a lot of questions about your salary, benefits, and more.
It’s normal to talk about money issues with someone you’ve been dating for years. But if you just started dating someone and he’s asking a lot of questions about how much money you make, what sort of benefits you receive and how you invest your money, you should be careful. He has no reason to ask these questions, and you shouldn’t divulge this information if you’re unsure about his intentions.
He doesn’t pay for much, if anything.
Maybe he paid for things at first, but now he’s starting to let you pay for everything. Or maybe you’ve always been the one who’s paid from the get go. If you find yourself paying for more than 60 percent of your date nights, you should speak up and ask him why. He should be paying for just as many activities as you are.
He has expensive tastes when you’re footing the bill.
Do the two of you drive through a fast food joint when he’s paying, but dine at the most expensive restaurant in town when it’s your turn to pay? Or does his Christmas list include luxury brands when he struggles to pay his rent? These are all things you should take note of. If he has champagne tastes on a beer budget, he may very well be looking to use your wallet to fund his lifestyle.
He doesn’t talk about his own financial situation.
Do you know how he earns his money, how much money he makes or have any insight into his living situation? It may not be weird if you don’t know exactly how much his pay checks are, but if you have no idea where his money comes from, and he never seems to have enough of it, that’s a huge red flag.
You don’t feel a real connection.
Have you ever stopped and wondered why he was even dating you? Maybe you have real feelings for him, but he doesn’t seem that interested in you. A very possible answer, especially if he exhibits any of the above qualities, could be that he’s just in it for the money.
If you’re still not sure if your man has good intentions, listen to your gut. If you have a bad feeling about him, it’s probably for a reason. Ask a trusted friend or a family member for their opinion, and see if they share the same concerns.
Don’t be afraid to cut a financially dependent man loose. You deserve the best of the best, and a man who is just using you for your money isn’t worth your time or effort. As the old adage goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea!
If you suspect your man is only dating you for your money, you should try a phone reading with a trained psychic who can tune in to your situation. Absolute Soul Secrets has many psychics available who can give you sound advice and provide guidance with the help of higher powers and spirit guides.