“Nice guys always finish last.” “No good deed goes unpunished.”
Have you heard someone utter those phrases, or even said one or two yourself? It’s a commonly held belief that bad things happen to good people. Many of our callers express similar frustrations – they talk about all the wonderful things they do for their family and friends and then point out the “bad” things that happen to them in life.
As a result, our psychics are often asked: “Do bad things happen to good people?” There are two answers to this question. The first is simple – of course bad things happen to good people. Bad things happen to everyone: good people, bad people, poor people and rich people. Negative events don’t exclude anyone.
But the question people are really trying to ask is, “Do bad things happen more frequently to good people than bad?” The answer to that question is no. Here’s why:
- People use the term ‘bad things’ really loosely. What one person may see as a bad thing could be seen as a great thing by another.
- It’s important to remember that everything in your life, good and bad, has made you the person you are today. Bad things and negative experiences are essential to learning, growing and finding out who you are as a person.
- We easily forget the good and get stuck on the bad. If you wrote down a list of everything that happened to you in a day and then categorised the events according to good and bad, you would be surprised at how good your day actually was. But what usually happens is that we expect the good, so it doesn’t stick out as much as the bad. We’re surprised and offended by the bad, so that’s what we focus our emotion and energy on.
- Some people feel as if they deserve the bad things that happen to them or that they caused bad things to happen to them for some reason. But the world doesn’t work like that. Natural disasters are caused by nature, not a specific person’s actions. A burglar doesn’t choose your house because of the person you are.
So how can you shake the feeling that bad things happen to good people? Start focusing on the positive and letting go of the negative. Take bad things, like traffic on the highway, a grumpy boss or rain on your vacation, with a grain of salt. It’s all about perspective – if being five minutes late to work is the worst thing that happens to you in a day, you’re doing just fine.
If you’re interested in talking to someone about this false phenomenon, try a phone reading with an Absolute Soul Secrets psychic. They can remind you of all the spirits and energies that are constantly working around you and provide guidance from higher powers. You’ll feel better knowing that the world is not against you and that you have an ally in your corner. What do you have to lose?